Oops, I made a mistake
“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”
We are consistent and we all make mistakes consistently.
We can sometimes fumble and do things we shouldn’t or we get caught in the thoughts in our head and do something quickly without thinking about the overall outcome.. Mistakes are mishaps, over-sights or a lapse in judgement. When we make them we find we miss opportunities, give or get wrong information or have misdirected thoughts that take us away from what we are doing.
Mistakes are usually not done on purpose or with intent. There should be no punishment for a mistake, only ways to make them right or ways to release them so we can move on.
Not everyone agrees about this as mistakes for many never go away. We hold onto them like a cozy old sweater, it is tattered, falling apart and it may not be that warm, but we are comfortable in what we know.
Why can’t we let go of the mistakes within ourselves or in others?
- For many, we keep mistakes around so we never forget. We like the constant reminder of when something doesn’t “work out” like we expected. It validates the “I told you so.”
- When we make a mistake, we are often afraid of making the same one over again, so we cower at an opportunity for fear of repeating the same mistake again. We focus so much on the mistake that we fail to live in the present moment; in the situation we are in.
I work with alot of clients who come in for a certain issue to find they are holding on to all of guilt for the mistakes they had. What I have learned it that mistakes can be the hallmark of learning and accepting so that you can forgive yourself for not being perfect. Mistakes show vulnerability, and that can bring greatest lessons.
You will make a mistake, it is impossible not to. It is life. But realize the one way to get beyond the fear of making them over and over again is to forgive yourself for making them in the first place.
Without forgiveness you can not move forward.